Commitment

Why do people afraid of commitment?

I once asked by a friend;why don't i get married as i already reached my 30-s?Was it i afraid of commitment?Yes & no.Actually,on that time i have no bf so marriage never comes to my mind yet. Yes, if i had a bf on that time, i can't marry yet bcoz' i have a lot of other commitments. I've to help my parents to support my brothers as they're still in college at that time.I just got my first job at that time & i haven't had the opportunity to reciprocate my parents' sacrifice.I still have other plans in my mind.I was afraid that marriage will stop/hinder my plans.

But then,when i found my bf (now my fiance), i never look back.Suddenly i just feel that i want to commit with him.Furthermore all my brothers has finished their studies.I know i haven't give back my parents things i should give but i realize now it's the time i should think for my own life.I don't have my own house, i don't own a car, i'm not capable to buy or eat whatever i want, i don't have savings, even every month i still have to thrift my salary.But i can't wait to have them all, then i get married.Now, i'm ready for a commitment;marriage.

My friend just bought a house.After this she's planning to buy a car.She already applied for a credit card & just got a personal loan, apart of paying current house rental & his father's car.She met her soulmate but always find excuses in getting married.She's afraid she can't commit to her current commitment.So,she's not ready for another commitment. I told her, if she want to settle all her current commitment, when can she get married?Bcoz' after this she'll find other excuses.

I know she's afraid of new commitment.She afraids she can't commit herself to her new life.She afraid she can't commit herself to her current commitment after committing to new commitment;marriage.