It's Hard To Be A Nice Person

Some people said i'm very nice.They said i'm polite, soft spoken, lady like, kind-hearted, helpful, cool & 'wanita melayu terakhir' (maybe bcoz' i wore 'baju kurung' all the time when i went to work).I didn't jump to my own conclusion about who i'm.I'm just write what poeple said about me.Not even person i've known for ages but also strangers i just met every where.

Is it the traits to be a nice people?Gosh,i've no idea.But if this is what people called nice people,i guess it really hard.I remember long time ago a person used to tell me,it's hard to be a nice person,when she heard about my story.At that time i had a big problem with my bf (now my fiance).He's gone with not a single word.
My boss used to say to me;stop being too nice to others,when a friend cheat on me.I helped him a lot but eventually he cheated & i've to face the consequences on my own.
I don't know how to scold people.I'm too patient.But i do have a rough side that... can get scary even for me when i blow off steam. Just wish being nice wasn't considered such a bad thing...