Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder

"Absence diminishes mediocre passions and increases great ones, as the wind blows out candles and fans fires", wrote FranÁois Rochefoucauld (1613-80). So before you agree on time away from your partner, decide whether your relationship is a candle or a fire. Don't risk extinguishing it by living apart for too long. Absence is more likely to make the heart grow fonder if the relationship has depth, strength and breadth;one that has both its spiritual and economic needs met, and the relationship has enjoyed not only good times, but trials that have been overcome.

Research shows that contact by phone, text or email is less effective than face-to-face communication; visual contact is vital and misunderstandings may arise without it.But on the upside, long-distance communication also enables partners to present themselves to one another in the best possible light. This idealisation of your partner isn't so easy when you see them daily, sprawled untidily on the settee.

Absence may also make the heart grow fonder for long-lost loves. Research shows that long-lost and reunited loves have a 72 per cent "stay together" rate. Only 1.5 per cent of the resulting marriages failed.

When someone you care for is away, you miss that person and think about them often, and that feeling makes you want to be with them even more.

They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder. What they never tell you – what no one ever remembers to say – is that it can also make the heart grow stronger.What they never tell you, however – what no one ever wants to bring up – is how much, and how deeply, it hurts. When someone you love and care for is far away from you, it’s like a piece of your heart has been torn away by some dark, unseen hand or force. The minutes are like years, and each lonely night stretches into eternity as you’re left to lie awake and wonder. Where are they now? What are they thinking about? Are they safe? Are they well? Are they thinking of you? These are questions that won’t be truly answered until the missing half of your heart walks back into your arms – or, on some unfortunate occasions, not at all.
And you worry. Even if there seems to be no rational reason to, you find yourself afraid that something will happen, no matter how impossible or how ridiculous that seems. You tell yourself over and over that everything’s fine, but despite your sound reasoning and good logic, you never quite convince yourself. It’s hard, missing someone while they’re gone, but at least you know you’ll see them again. Unless, that is, the reason they’re missing is because they’ve been taken.

But beware, sometimes it makes the heart go yonder.Couples are unadviseble to live in separate cities or stay away from each other for an extended period of time if they can help it bcoz' distant relationships have a lack of physical contact, spiritual, mental bonding that comes from being with them every day, living in the same city.
It's true 'absence makes heart grow fonder' as i've been through it lots of time.But for me,as long as we love each other,have faith with each other,patience,tolerence,consideration,understanding, ur love will as strong & firm as china greatwall no matter what comes between us.