Beauty Is In The Eyes Of The Beholder

People often say that 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder,' and I say that the most liberating thing about beauty is realizing that you are the beholder. This empowers us to find beauty in places where others have not dared to look, including inside ourselves. - Salma Hayek

+ Beauty comes in all sizes — not just size 5. -Roseanne

'Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder' is something which one person finds beautiful or admirable may not appeal to another.
Beauty is the gift of God.Beauty is one of the rare things that do not lead to doubt of God.Everything has beauty but not everyone see it. There's beauty in all imperfections.Learn to love them.A person is only beautiful, when their own beauty, is reflecting on to others.Beauty in things exists merely in the mind which contemplates them. Shyness enhances beauty while shame kills it. Valour enhances beauty; arrogance destroys it. It's beauty that captures your attention; personality which captures your heart.Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.Beauty is an ecstasy; it is as simple as hunger. There is really nothing to be said about it. It is like the perfume of a rose: you can smell it and that is all.There is certainly no absolute standard of beauty. That precisely is what makes its pursuit so interesting.
A few days ago,one of my best friend called.Lately we always contact each other.Usually i called her bcoz' the phone bill is free.She is in my hometown,kt.We've known each other since 1993.It was way too long but our friendship never faded even though we're far apart & both of us are bz with our hectic schedule.
One question she always ask me when we talk is when i'm getting married.She was very excited with it but at the same time she is quite worry of herself.Until now she hasn't found any man yet in her live.Sometimes i am very sorry for her.She is so lonely as both her parent just passed away & now she lives alone.She only has one sister but now she is away at penang.
We all understand that at our present age,we should already have our own family;husband & children.She is also still single/unmarried but unlike me she has no plan when to get marry as she has no candidate.Almost at middle 30-s but still no one to fell in love with.
She is like any other normal girls.She is smart, kind-hearted, funny, mature, cheerful, helpful, nice & he has all other traits that man look for as a wife.But she has ONE downside;low self-esteem in terms of her appearance.She always said,she'll never find a man bcoz' nowadays man look for look.She's sweet but her weight has covered all her beauty.

Few year back her weight was 120++ kg.She was classified as obese.She tried to shed her weight but failed.She eat very little yet her weight gained.I wouldn't surprise as she was 'big' since she was small.Both her parents were over weight.So do her sister.
She felt bcoz' of her weight & body size,no man attracts to her.She felt she'll never find her mate.She's ready to live on her own until her last breath if it was her fate.She said she has nothing to offer so that man can fall in love with her.I know one more thing (even though she never said so), she was in trauma with man.Her late parents used to divorce b4.Her late father married to another woman.Her parents always argue like cat & dog.

I always told her not to have that kind of thoughts.Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.May be we think/others think we're not beautiful but who knows,there are others who think we're beautiful.It's better than others think we're not beautiful when we think of ourself as beautiful.I'm sure there is someone out there searching for her.God created everything in pairs.
Even though she think of herself as not beautiful,i'm sure there's someone (man) who will see her inner beauty.Physical appearance is not important bcoz' if u look for it,it will fade out.Nothing will remain as the same forever.But if u look for inner beauty which can only be seen by certain people,it'll remain as no one can act forever.

I used to think that i'm not beautiful.That's why i only have the gut to admire someone i like from far.I'm not brave enough to face him as i think he'll never find me attractive.Sometimes i was envy with my friend who has lots of fans & boyfriends.Until i met my fiance,i fell in love instantly BUT as b4,i only take him as a friend as i felt really down.I'm not beautiful whereas he is so handsome & attractive (many people said that,so that's why girls like him).& he's far younger than i am.But god has fated that we're meant for each other.Until now i never ask him weather i'm beautiful or not,not bcoz' i'm afraid to know the answer but i'm blessed that he accepted me as who i am even though he often said he was handsome & that's why i fell for him.He never complaint of my appearance & look.& as the time passed,we've changed a lot in all aspects including physical appearance.Both of us have gained our weight,especially him.& now his skin has darkened (b4 this his skin was fair).Frankly speaking now he's not as 'handsome' as b4 but it didn't bother me as i love him not bcoz' of his physical attraction but his heart;his inner self.I never fell in love with his physical appearance even though i'm proud to have a 'handsome' fiance.So physical changes will never fade my love for him.& i hope it's the same with him.

I've seen big size people lives happily ever after with their spouse.I also has a friend with the same size but she is very confident with herself in terms of appearance & life.She wears fitted clothes as she is not ashamed to show off her body.She never bother what other people said.It is her life & no one should said what she can & can't do.She befriends many man.She never afraid to ask man out or accept invitation from man.She is really confident.For her,if others can't accept her,so be it.She never really care.
I pray to god to bless my friend with a kind man.I hope she gains her confidence back as everyone has different tastes & choices.I'm sure she'll find a man who can accept her for who she is,not for what she is.