Mother In Law Is Coming

My mother in law is coming today. I'm so nervous bcoz' this the first time she will come to our house. 'Luckily' she won't be here long bcoz' tommorrow she will go back to trganu. She came her with my husband's relatives for an engagement ceremony. My husband's cousin's son will engage on sunday. Kiranya ni rombongan meminang la.
I've no preparation for her coming. Luckily on that day my husband is not working. & Luckily she will be arrived in the evening bcoz' i've PTD exam for the whole day today.

Fat

How do u feel when people said that u're fat when the truth is u're fat? I used to be fat when was in matrics programme. When i was small, i was very thin, may be bcoz' i'm not a healthy kid at that time. But when i got my first period, my body hormone changed. & at that time, i became inactive. B4 that i cycled to school but starting form 4, i went to school by bus. Then i went into matrics programme. At that time i can't really adapt myself to the new surrounding, so most of the time i stayed in my room, sleeping without realizing that habbit has made me gained weight. From 50++ kg (below 55), into 60++ kg. Everyone especially people at home & my relatives said i'm fatt. The gave me names like debab, buntal etc. I was hurt.
But then once i went into degree programme, i became active again & managed to shed my weight. I managed to maintain my weight until i went to kl. But once i met my now husband, my weight went yo-yo; sometimes it gained, sometimes it went down, may be bcoz' of my husband's habbit. He likes to eat & when he wanted to eat, i've to accompany him & i've to eat too. But once i'm engaged, my weight went overboard; 70++. So right now i'm became fatter than b4 & i'm trying to shed off a few kilo for health reason. My husband didn't mind with my weight, may be bcoz' he's 'bigger' than me, but i'm concious with my health since i'm reaching the 'metabolisme disorder' period. B4 this i can shed my weight by starving my self by eating once a day or by jogging for 30 minutes thrice per week. But now, even though i'm not eating, still my weight hasn't gone down.
Enough with the story of myself. Actually i'm gonna write about my friend. 2 days ago she came to see me. She was unhappy & worried bcoz' her mother kept on asking when will she get married. She just turn into 24 this year but her mother already asked her to ger married. Her problem is she has no one; no bf, no candidate. After she she broke off with her bf (actually her bf left her), she lost her interest to start a new relationship. She lost her passion to look as vogue as b4. Even though she was the XXXL size girl, i salute her bcoz' she was brave to wear cloths that i'm not going to wear. She didn't like to hide her body shape. She was not afraid to show off her shape. She liked to wear make-up. For the girl with her size, she was really brave.
But now she didn't mind with all of that. She losts her senses to look beautiful. No make up. She wore whatever she can find. She gained her weight again. I'm not sure how much is her weight right now. Last time 100++ kg. Bcoz' of her weight, she's not confident to go into a new relationship. She believed that no man will want her. According to her friend's experience, no matter ugly that man, he'll find a slimmer girl to be his couple. Her friend's fiance broke off their engagement bcoz' her friend is fat. Just bcoz' of that.
Why people so double standard? It's not that they wanted to be fat. If they were given chance, they want to be slimmer. I've a few friend & cousin who can be categorized as fat & they also have no mate. Even if there is a man want to befriend them, they actually have other reason. For instance money. Like this friend, she spent a lot of money to her x-bf. For almost 2 years, she gave him whatever he wanted but in the end he left her for more beautiful girl & the most important thing is slimmer.
I pray to god that sooner or later she will find a sincere man, man who can see inside her, not to her appearance.

Friends Are Forever

I realized that i'm out of friends now. Right now i've lost contact with all my friends; childhood friends, school friends, uni friends, x-officemate, etc. Right now i only have my husband as my best friend, my new office mate as my new friend & sometimes i chit chatting with my x-officemate. I stop 'friending' since i'm engaged. May be bcoz' at that time i was bz with my wedding preparation. I realized that after i'm engaged, i lost one of my best friend. She stopped contacting me. & i even didn't contact her bcoz' i didn't want to hurt her + to give her room to cool herself bcoz' at the time i'm engaged, her wedding ceremony has been called off (cancelled). But then she kept on hiding herself from the world. It was also my fault bcoz' i've no time for her. Actually i was afraid she would became sadder if u know that i'm engaged on that time. Frankly speaking i'm not sure whether she knew about my wedding bcoz' i couldn't contact her.
But then a few days ago she sent me an e-mail saying she has moved in into her own house in semenyih. She even gave me her new hp num. But frankly said, i haven't had time to call her yet. Maybe after my husband's court case settled bcoz' next week my husband has to attend a court hearing in mahkamah selayang. This is one of the reason why i shut off myself from others. Apart of bz with my new life + office work (my boss just opened 2 new companies this year + a new project just begin), i was worried what is the judgement of my husband's case.
I just starting my own facebook. Wonder oh wonder, i managed to find a few of my best friends in uni, matrics prog to be exact. I was so happy to see their new picture. I still can recognize them even though we haven't seen each other for more than 10 years. All of them were married with children.
& also my friend's sister just add me into her facebook. I haven't seen her for quite sometimes even though i always contact her sister ie my friend. I'm glad that she is ok now.
& yesterday my x-officemate aka my very closed friend called & she wanted to see me. Actually i last saw her b4 my wedding when i gave her my wedding card. She couldn't attend my wed bcoz' of the distance. After that we lost contact bcoz' my office num changed + my husband used my num. But last month i accidently met her at a food court near my house & only yesterday me managed to meer properly, having dinner together + chatting until night.

Frankly speaking i missed all my friends but i always used 'time' as an excuse not to contact them. But i promised after the court hearing, i'm going to befriend once more. So friends out there, wait for my come back.Friends are forever.

Happy Valentine Day

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Tips for a fun Valentine’s Day – Within Your Budget

Valentine’s Day is coming up on Saturday, February 14, 2009 and can often be an expensive holiday. Because issues related to finance can easily cause stress in a relationship, consider the following tips to have a debt-free holiday!

1. Think about that flower purchase. If your loved one will be extremely unhappy without flowers, consider choosing less popular flowers and colors. For example, everyone buys red roses; why not consider orchids, tulips, lilies or a mixed bouquet?

2. Consider having a nice candlelit dinner at home, is it really necessary to go out to a restaurant that will be extremely busy and thus possibly not offer the best service? See the recipes to the right brought to you by RecipeMatcher to create a nice romantic dinner in the comfort of your own home.

3. See some live music. No need to buy expensive concert tickets, instead seek out a jazz band playing at a local cafe or the local college music department putting on a concert on campus. If you are not into music, try to find a poetry reading or local play.

4. Express how you feel by writing your loved one a personally written note or card. Place the note in a place where your loved one will not expect the note, either in the car, on the door on the way out or on the mirror in the bathroom.

5. Have fun and enjoy the moment!

Cinta sejati jadi 'cinta sehari'

KECEWA dan terus kecewa dalam percintaan dijalin. Kadang-kadang hati sudah bosan memikirkan soal perasaan sedang diri terus dimamah usia.

Bosan sebenarnya apabila berakhir pada cinta yang salah. Alih-alih mengharap cinta sejati tetapi ia hanya kekal dan menjadi ‘cinta sehari’.

Ada waktu anda menyalahkan takdir yang menyebabkan sering kecundang lewat percintaan. Pernahkah mengkaji diri apa yang menjadi penyebabnya?

Kalau difikirkan kecantikan diri, rasanya tidak kalah dengan teman lain yang sudah punya kehidupan membahagiakan bersama pasangan masing-masing.

Namun anda masih sendiri dan bagaikan orang berputus asa, anda sudah menanam cita-cita untuk tidak mahu mengharapkan sesiapa lagi.

Jangan cepat dilanda rasa kecewa. Ada pengkaji dalam soal cinta menyarankan supaya jangan menoleh ke masa lalu yang penuh kekecewaan sebaliknya sentiasa melengkapkan diri untuk menerima cinta baru.

Namun, sebelum memutuskan menerima cinta seseorang, perhatikan tandanya, apakah dia memang jodoh anda?

Dia sahabat terbaik anda

Saat mengalami kesulitan, perkara pertama terlintas di kepala anda adalah dirinya. Dia pandai menenangkan hati.

Dia selalu hadir untuk anda dalam situasi apa sekalipun. Tiada orang yang lebih baik mengisi peranan ini daripada pasangan anda atau sahabat istimewa yang menjadi tempat susah senang anda. Percayalah, pasangan yang dirasakan jodoh anda, pasti tidak takut mengalami pasang surut dalam hidup ini.

Punya banyak persamaan

Hasil penelitian menyatakan, perkahwinan yang paling stabil adalah pernikahan yang membabitkan dua orang dengan banyak persamaan. Jenis persamaan itu tidak terlalu penting tetapi semua itu adalah modal untuk menjadikan hubungan semakin mantap.

Menikmati semua aspek kehidupan bersama adalah antara rahsia pasangan sejati. Tidak perlu orang lain untuk membuat anda berdua bahagia. Apakah anda sudah merasakannya? Jika ya, jangan lepaskan dia.

Kepentingan anda adalah segalanya

“Cinta dimulai ketika seseorang menemukan bahawa keinginan orang lain sama pentingnya dengan hasrat hatinya sendiri.” (Harry Stack Sullivan).

Daripada bahasa tubuh dan sikapnya selama ini, terlihat jelas dia memperlakukan anda sebagai orang terpenting dalam hidupnya.

Bahkan, dia sering mementingkan sesuatu untuk keperluan diri dan sekali gus dia memikirkan diri anda. Jika ini yang ada pada peribadinya, mungkin dia yang anda cari.

Justeru, cinta abadi membabitkan komitmen rela berkorban untuk kebahagiaan pasangan lalu jangan memikirkan orang lain di fikiran. Percayalah bahawa dialah milik cinta sejati anda.

Cinta tanpa syarat

Cuba ingat, pernahkah dia menarik muka masam saat melihat anda memakai baju yang tidak menepati seleranya? Dia barangkali pernah menegur gaya pakaian anda yang agak menjolok mata atau sebenarnya gaya pakaian anda membuatkan dia tidak senang kerana takut ada lelaki lain akan memberi perhatian lebih kepada anda.

Atau anda pernah ditegurnya tanpa disedari gara-gara memotong rambut tanpa pengetahuannya?

Namun, dia sentiasa pandai mengambil hati dan tegurannya jarang menyakitkan. Sebaiknya, fikirlah jika anda berkira-kira untuk memilih dia menjadi kekasih sejati. Cinta sejati adalah cinta tanpa syarat yang mampu menerima pasangan seadanya.

Sentiasa bersedia jadi pendengar setia

Setiap kali anda berbicara padanya, tidak sedetik pun perhatiannya beralih. Dia pendengar yang baik, mampu mendengar anda berbicara berjam-jam lamanya tanpa rasa bosan, penuh perhatian dan mengerti apa yang anda diinginkan.

Sering menepati masa

Untuk urusan apa sekalipun, dia selalu berusaha untuk menepati waktunya. Janji bertemu jam tujuh malam, dia sudah tiba di tempat setengah jam lebih awal.

Baginya, lebih baik dia yang sampai dulu atau menjadi penunggu setia daripada membiarkan anda menunggu. Apalagi jika tempat pertemuan agak janggal untuk dirinya tetapi dia sentiasa mahu anda didahulukan.

Gerak batin atau naluri

Tanpa sebarang ucapan, anda mampu mengetahui apa yang tersirat di hati masing-masing.

Anda berdua bagaikan dapat saling membaca fikiran dan menduga reaksi serta perasaan pasangan pada situasi apa sekalipun. Bila anda sudah merasakan hal sedemikian, selamat! Mungkin dialah belahan jiwa anda.

Bila kawan jadi kekasih

JAUH di sudut hati, terasa betapa indah memujanya. Namun siapa yang dapat merasakan cuitan hati jika tidak terluah dek kata-kata?

Jika khuatir persahabatan didatangi kebencian, pertimbangan harus berasas akal

JAUH di sudut hati, terasa betapa indah memujanya.

Namun siapa yang dapat merasakan cuitan hati jika tidak terluah dek kata-kata?

Yang menjadi masalah, mampukah ia terungkap jika orang yang diminati dan sering menjentik perasaan bukanlah orang lain sebaliknya sahabat baik sendiri?

Bertahun menjalin hubungan atas dasar sahabat sejati, rakan setia yang sanggup bersusah bersama dan bergembira di saat anda mahu meluah segala suka-duka, kini segalanya berubah.

Jantung bagai disentap apabila bertembung dengannya bahkan tiba-tiba membuatkan hati berdebar-debar dan jatuh cinta tanpa disedari apabila perasaan itu muncul di celah persahabatan yang dijalin.

Jika dulu, anda menganggap dirinya seorang sahabat sejati, sanggup berkongsi suka dan duka serta menjadi teman paling setia mendengar masalah, kini lain pula situasinya.

Sahabat yang selama ini dimahkotakan sebagai teman biasa kini bertukar menjadi kekasih istimewa.

Persoalannya, adakah hubungan akan berjalan dengan lancar jika bercinta dengan sahabat sendiri? Adakah dia juga merasakan hal yang sama seperti anda? Adakah anda harus menyatakan perasaan itu terhadapnya?

Apabila dilamun cinta dengan teman biasa, perlu diteliti semua aspek peribadinya sebelum sesuatu hubungan itu menjadi bertambah intim. Takut nanti, yang dikejar tak dapat, yang dikendong keciciran.

Kata orang, bercinta dengan sahabat sendiri akan mencetuskan kekangan dalam perhubungan. Sekiranya khuatir persahabatan itu akan berakhir dengan perasaan saling membenci, anda harus mempertimbangkan aspek pro dan kontranya.

Pro

* Anda harus menyukai seluruh peribadinya. Perlu juga tahu perubahan hatinya, perkara yang membahagiakannya jika menjalin hubungan cinta dengan anda dan perkara yang perlu dihindari.

* Anda sanggup menempuh suka dan duka bersama tidak kira apa juga rintangan yang dihadapi berbanding sewaktu menjalinkan hubungan persahabatan dulu.

* Anda mengenali ibu bapanya dan diterima baik oleh mereka. Yang pasti, anda seharusnya mempunyai nilai positif yang membawa ke arah kebahagiaan kedua-dua pihak.

Kontra

* Memandangkan anda berdua sudah mengenali perilaku masing-masing, tiada lagi hal yang boleh membuatkan anda perlu bertanya. Ia mungkin menimbulkan rasa bosan jika anda masih mahu melakukannya.

* Anda meminati karakternya ketika bergelar sahabat, tetapi tidak mustahil karakter itu boleh berubah setelah hubungan yang dibina bertukar menjadi kekasih.

* Sikap seperti cemburu dan syak wasangka melampau mungkin antara sikap yang tidak pernah anda sangka muncul pada si dia yang dulu hanya seorang teman biasa.

* Sebagai sahabat, hubungan anda berdua dilihat bertambah baik, tetapi ia berubah setelah menjadi teman istimewa. Anda akan kehilangan orang yang selalu menjadi pendengar yang baik. Siapa yang akan menjadi pendengar setia apabila dia yang menjadi topik pembicaraan anda?


Dari segi pro dan kontra yang disenaraikan, aspek kontra lebih berkemungkinan membawa anda ke arah kehancuran sebuah persahabatan yang begitu indah.

Anda berasa sudah mengenali hatinya dengan baik sebagai sahabat, tetapi sebagai kekasih segalanya berubah.

Terdapat juga risiko yang harus anda hadapi apabila berterus-terang mengenai perasaan.

Jangan luahkan perasaan ini kerana ia akan muncul sekiranya kamu cuba menahan dan menyembunyikannya.

Duduk dengan tenang, pertimbangkan aspek pro dan kontranya.

Jangan lupa, risiko yang mungkin terjadi. Anda tidak akan mengetahui sejauh manakah perasaannya terhadap anda sekiranya anda takut untuk cuba bertanya sendiri.

Apabila anda berdua berjaya mengungkap perasaan cinta itu, mungkin pada awalnya ia akan menimbulkan sedikit kejanggalan, tetapi kesudahannya, ia akan berakhir dengan kegembiraan.