Beauty Is In The Eyes Of The Beholder

People often say that 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder,' and I say that the most liberating thing about beauty is realizing that you are the beholder. This empowers us to find beauty in places where others have not dared to look, including inside ourselves. - Salma Hayek

+ Beauty comes in all sizes — not just size 5. -Roseanne

'Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder' is something which one person finds beautiful or admirable may not appeal to another.
Beauty is the gift of God.Beauty is one of the rare things that do not lead to doubt of God.Everything has beauty but not everyone see it. There's beauty in all imperfections.Learn to love them.A person is only beautiful, when their own beauty, is reflecting on to others.Beauty in things exists merely in the mind which contemplates them. Shyness enhances beauty while shame kills it. Valour enhances beauty; arrogance destroys it. It's beauty that captures your attention; personality which captures your heart.Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.Beauty is an ecstasy; it is as simple as hunger. There is really nothing to be said about it. It is like the perfume of a rose: you can smell it and that is all.There is certainly no absolute standard of beauty. That precisely is what makes its pursuit so interesting.
A few days ago,one of my best friend called.Lately we always contact each other.Usually i called her bcoz' the phone bill is free.She is in my hometown,kt.We've known each other since 1993.It was way too long but our friendship never faded even though we're far apart & both of us are bz with our hectic schedule.
One question she always ask me when we talk is when i'm getting married.She was very excited with it but at the same time she is quite worry of herself.Until now she hasn't found any man yet in her live.Sometimes i am very sorry for her.She is so lonely as both her parent just passed away & now she lives alone.She only has one sister but now she is away at penang.
We all understand that at our present age,we should already have our own family;husband & children.She is also still single/unmarried but unlike me she has no plan when to get marry as she has no candidate.Almost at middle 30-s but still no one to fell in love with.
She is like any other normal girls.She is smart, kind-hearted, funny, mature, cheerful, helpful, nice & he has all other traits that man look for as a wife.But she has ONE downside;low self-esteem in terms of her appearance.She always said,she'll never find a man bcoz' nowadays man look for look.She's sweet but her weight has covered all her beauty.

Few year back her weight was 120++ kg.She was classified as obese.She tried to shed her weight but failed.She eat very little yet her weight gained.I wouldn't surprise as she was 'big' since she was small.Both her parents were over weight.So do her sister.
She felt bcoz' of her weight & body size,no man attracts to her.She felt she'll never find her mate.She's ready to live on her own until her last breath if it was her fate.She said she has nothing to offer so that man can fall in love with her.I know one more thing (even though she never said so), she was in trauma with man.Her late parents used to divorce b4.Her late father married to another woman.Her parents always argue like cat & dog.

I always told her not to have that kind of thoughts.Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.May be we think/others think we're not beautiful but who knows,there are others who think we're beautiful.It's better than others think we're not beautiful when we think of ourself as beautiful.I'm sure there is someone out there searching for her.God created everything in pairs.
Even though she think of herself as not beautiful,i'm sure there's someone (man) who will see her inner beauty.Physical appearance is not important bcoz' if u look for it,it will fade out.Nothing will remain as the same forever.But if u look for inner beauty which can only be seen by certain people,it'll remain as no one can act forever.

I used to think that i'm not beautiful.That's why i only have the gut to admire someone i like from far.I'm not brave enough to face him as i think he'll never find me attractive.Sometimes i was envy with my friend who has lots of fans & boyfriends.Until i met my fiance,i fell in love instantly BUT as b4,i only take him as a friend as i felt really down.I'm not beautiful whereas he is so handsome & attractive (many people said that,so that's why girls like him).& he's far younger than i am.But god has fated that we're meant for each other.Until now i never ask him weather i'm beautiful or not,not bcoz' i'm afraid to know the answer but i'm blessed that he accepted me as who i am even though he often said he was handsome & that's why i fell for him.He never complaint of my appearance & look.& as the time passed,we've changed a lot in all aspects including physical appearance.Both of us have gained our weight,especially him.& now his skin has darkened (b4 this his skin was fair).Frankly speaking now he's not as 'handsome' as b4 but it didn't bother me as i love him not bcoz' of his physical attraction but his heart;his inner self.I never fell in love with his physical appearance even though i'm proud to have a 'handsome' fiance.So physical changes will never fade my love for him.& i hope it's the same with him.

I've seen big size people lives happily ever after with their spouse.I also has a friend with the same size but she is very confident with herself in terms of appearance & life.She wears fitted clothes as she is not ashamed to show off her body.She never bother what other people said.It is her life & no one should said what she can & can't do.She befriends many man.She never afraid to ask man out or accept invitation from man.She is really confident.For her,if others can't accept her,so be it.She never really care.
I pray to god to bless my friend with a kind man.I hope she gains her confidence back as everyone has different tastes & choices.I'm sure she'll find a man who can accept her for who she is,not for what she is.

Know Ur Man's Heart & His Love

Kenali hati, cinta lelaki
(Text From Harian Metro)

"BENARKAH sukar mengenali hati lelaki? Menelah dan menggauli hati budi mereka sebenarnya tidak semudah yang disangka."

Dalam persahabatan, segelintir pendapat mengatakan bergaul dengan lelaki sebenarnya lebih mudah berbanding bersahabat dengan golongan Hawa. Mungkin kerana lelaki itu sifatnya mudah bertolak ansur, lebih telus dalam persahabatan atau lebih berterus-terang dan tidak menyimpan perasaan terhadap sesuatu perkara.

Namun dalam soal cinta dan perhubungan serius yang menyangkut soal hati, bagaimana? Seperti kata ahli sosial, jika anda pandai menelusuri hati lelaki, sebenarnya jalan menuju kebahagiaan lebih mudah.
Jika anda ingin mencari cinta sejati, anda sendiri harus mengenali hati dan keperibadian mereka supaya hubungan itu lebih mudah.
Berikut diperturunkan 14 perkara yang bersangkutan dengan golongan Adam supaya anda lebih peka mengenai beberapa perkara mengenali mereka.
Jika ia sesuai dijadikan panduan, terimalah ia dengan hati terbuka. Jika sebaliknya, anggaplah ia sebagai pengisi bahan bacaan anda di masa terluang.
1. Jika anda bertanya lelaki: “Adakah anda cintakan saya?” selepas setahun perhubungan, mereka akan menjawab “Ya, saya cintakan awak”.

Tetapi hakikatnya, mereka masih ada beberapa jawapan lain untuk soalan itu seperti A. “Ya, rasa-rasanyalah” B. “Mestikah saya berkata begitu supaya anda rasa senang hati?” C. “Bergantunglah apa maksud cinta pada pandangan awak” D. “Penting sangatkah?” dan E. “Siapa, saya?”
2. Anda tidak perlu meminta pendapat jujur mengenai diri anda dan anda tidak payah minta dia memberi pujian anda kekasihnya atau gadis paling menarik di dunia ini. Ini kerana apabila terlihat perempuan cantik di hadapannya, dia mungkin merenung hingga terbeliak biji mata.
3. Ada sesetengah lelaki tidak suka aturan hidupnya dirancang kerana baginya, biarlah takdir yang menentukan. Keadaan jadi lebih teruk jika pasangan cuba merancang segala tindakannya. Jika lelaki pilihan anda tidak gemar kehidupannya ditentukan, kaji dulu tabiatnya sebelum anda mengutarakan sebarang cadangan.
4. Lelaki tidak suka dipaksa atau diubah.
5. Lelaki yang gemar merokok pasti mendapatkan habuannya sebatang dua setiap kali selepas makan.
6. Setiap kali anda marah atau naik angin dengan si dia, dalam fikirannya lebih cenderung memikirkan: “Oh, dia ini pasti datang bulan.” sedangkan lelaki tidak sedar dirinya dimarahi kerana perangai atau tingkah lakunya sendiri yang menyakitkan hati.
7. Lelaki tidak berapa suka membincangkan isu pertengkaran dengan pasangannya. Jika dia mahu duduk berbincang, ia hanya sebentar dan dengan segera mahu menutup perbincangan. Beberapa hari berikutnya, dia akan buat-buat lupa.
8. Ada tiga perkara yang boleh membuat lelaki tertekan iaitu duit, kuasa dan seks.
9. Jangan buat lawak bodoh mengenai lelaki di hadapan kawan atau keluarganya. Ada lelaki cepat tersinggung dan menganggap ia satu penghinaan besar malah mungkin satu percubaan mensabotaj nama baiknya.
10. Lelaki cuma suka lafazkan ‘I love you’ pada peringkat awal perhubungan. Apabila perhubungan sudah menjadi semakin intim lelaki lupa untuk mengucapkannya semula sehingga wanita yang terpaksa memberi 10,000 jenis isyarat supaya dia tidak lupa dia masih dan perlu mencintai si wanita.
11. Lelaki suka jika pasangannya bergaya cantik, popular dan menarik perhatian waktu berjalan bersama. Tetapi jika ada lelaki lain yang tertarik dengan teman wanitanya, dia akan menyalahkan wanita dulu kerana katanya “Awak yang kuat melayan”.
12. Jangan kritik muzik, kereta, pasukan bola, motosikal, topi keledar atau apa saja yang menjadi kegemaran mereka.
13. Jangan kritik cara mereka berpakaian, menyapu gel rambut atau menyikat rambut.
14. Lelaki tidak suka diberikan tekanan pada fasa awal perhubungan. Jika dia melarikan diri apabila terserempak dengan keluarga atau sahabat handai anda, maafkanlah dia kerana dia sebenarnya masih belum yakin sepenuhnya.

Conclusion : Most man will say the 3 letter word 'i luv u' when u ask them weather they love u or not but actually they still have other thought to say but 'afraid' to say it bcoz' they won't make u sad.Don't ever ask any sincere opinion about u from man bcoz' eventually u'll know the truth.Some man don't like u mess up/change their way of life.U can't change their habit in one day.They don't like to be forced to do something.If u're angry or mad of them,they won't understand it if u wouldn't tell them the reason.That's why it was said men are lack of emotional radar.Men don't like to discuss the arguement/disagreement.They assume that it will finally resolve by itself.They said money, power & sex distress men very much.Don't u ever make fun of him infront of their friends or family bcoz' they think of it as the most humilating thing to do.Everybody know,men will only said the 3 letter word at the early stage of a relationship & girls have to beg them to say it over & over again to ensure that their men still love them.Men like their couple to be beautiful, attracted & popular but the bad news is they'll blame the girls if other men attracted to them(her).Don't critisize their interest/hobby/obsession such as music, car, motorbike, footbal etc.Don't critisize the way they wear the clothes, comb their hair or their appearance.Trust me,they hate it.Last but not least,don't pressure them at the early stage of relationship.So u'll know why they run away when they accidently meet our family or they give million unlogical excuses when we want them to meet our family or friends.

Men's Love Are Weird & Unique

Romantis: Cinta lelaki pelik, unik
(Text From Harian Metro : 29/05/2008)

CINTA lelaki memang pelik dan aneh, tetapi unik. Ia pelik kerana hadir di jiwa seorang lelaki yang sebelumnya keras, kasar dan kurang romantis.
Aneh apabila dia sudah lembut dan romantis, mudah pula berasa sayu pilu dan sensitif hanya dengan kata-kata orang yang dicintainya.
Semua ini melambangkan keunikan hati lelaki yang sukar difahami, ada kala lunak tetapi selalu keras dan kurang simpati.
Lelaki tidak berupaya hidup tanpa wanita di sisi tetapi tatkala sudah memiliki jarang pula hendak menghargainya sepanjang usia. Lelaki yang benar-benar lelaki, disenangi pasangan sama ada kekasih mahupun sudah bergelar isteri.
Kesungguhan cinta lelaki terpancar melalui:

Kesungguhan dalam melakukan sesuatu buat kekasih atau isteri tanpa paksaan. Semua dilakukan dengan rela, ceria dan penuh bahagia.

Puas apabila dapat menghiburkan pasangannya.

Lebih banyak menasihati kerana amat menyayangi kekasih atau isterinya.

Mencemburui kekasih atau isteri, lantas akan mengongkong kebebasan mereka. Kongkongan semata-mata perasaan sayang dan cemburu yang meluap-luap.

Kerap menyatakan ketakutan jika kehilangan kekasih atau isteri.

Mudah merajuk dan sensitif apabila si dia tidak me numpukan perhatian penuh padanya.

Kadangkala seperti anak kecil untuk mendapatkan layanan terbaik daripada pasangan.

Kerajinannya ketara, tergambar melalui kesungguhan melakukan apa saja asalkan dapat membahagiakan kekasih atau isteri.

Mudah merajuk kerana mahukan kata-kata lembut da ripada kekasih atau isteri.

Lega apabila pasangan memujuknya.

Gelisah apabila berjauhan dengan kekasih atau isteri.

Kerap menelefon dan menghantar sistem pesanan ringkas (SMS).

Lelaki yang jujur dan cukup mabuk dalam percintaan pasti tidak akan melayan perempuan lain sewenang-wenangnya. Dia akan berasa berdosa berbuat begitu tanpa pengetahuan kekasih atau isteri.

Sebenarnya apabila lelaki benar-benar jatuh cinta dan setia kepada kekasihnya dengan ikhlas, perubahan sikap amat mengejutkan.
Hati lelaki yang dianggap keras selama ini, tiba-tiba secara semula jadi menjadi selembut kapas apabila sudah jatuh cinta dengan relanya.
Malah, lelaki yang mabuk cinta sanggup berkorban dan buat apa saja untuk kekasihnya.
Sekeras manapun hati lelaki, dia akan mengalirkan air mata apabila hatinya dilukai. Untuk melihat lelaki menangis amat sukar. Antara tanda-tanda lelaki jatuh cinta ialah:
Dia menganggap kekasihnya sebagai orang yang paling dipercayai dan sanggup menyerahkan harta mahupun nyawa sendiri.
Dia sentiasa ingin menghiburkan kekasihnya dan berubah menjadi orang yang kuat bercakap.
Dia banyak menasihati kekasih kerana amat menyayanginya.
Dia sentiasa mengawasi pergerakan kekasihnya kerana sentiasa berasa curiga.
Dia tidak suka lelaki lain rapat dengan kekasihnya.
Dia sentiasa memastikan keselamatan kekasihnya.
Dia akan menggelabah apabila kekasihnya berjauhan dengannya terlalu lama.
Dia mementingkan kekasihnya lebih daripada dirinya sendiri.
Dia kerap bertanya adakah kekasihnya mencintainya kerana dia berasa kasihnya lebih kuat daripada kekasihnya.
Dia tidak akan melayan perempuan lain yang tidak ada urusan penting dengannya.
Dia cuba meluangkan lebih banyak masa dengan kekasihnya walaupun terpaksa menunggu dengan sabar.
Dia membanggakan kekasihnya di depan orang lain.
Apabila timbul orang ketiga, dia akan hilang akal dan sanggup berbuat apa saja untuk merebut kekasihnya kem bali.
Dia tidak akan berlaku curang terhadap kekasihnya namun jika dia berbuat demikian, ini bermakna dia belum 100 peratus mencintai kekasihnya.